Friday, July 2, 2010

Update on my Mum

After speaking with her specialist my Mums news is not that good. Her cancer has started to spread. When he went in to clean her stent he said it was pretty messy in there, meaning lots of bleeding and growing. She has been coughing up a lot of blood. Usually when he cleans it out he comes back saying it was nice and clean, not this time. He suggested Chemo, I don't think my mother would cope with chemo physically, she is 76 now. I think she will most likely refuse it and prefer to have quality of life than to go through chemo.

He also recommended that she have another stent put into her other lung in the next couple of months as the bad one is most likely going to collapse soon.

To be honest I would never have thought I would have lost my husband before losing my mother. My Mum was diagnosed long before Max and obviously a different Cancer. Max learnt a lot from her courage and attitude to life, it certainly rubbed off. When I was going through IF, my biggest fear was that my future child would never know their grandmother and that my mother would never meet my future child. I wanted them to spend time with them and learn from them. Instead my son has no father to grow up with and learn from. I am grateful they they have at least met Babbaboo and have spent precious time with them both, I just wish it was longer. Wishing my Mum more strength and courage to get through the next stage.
I hate fuck'n cancer, I wish it would give my family a break!

14 comments:

Pundelina said...

oh Vee! That's awfully hard news to get - I wish cancer would leave your family alone too! My MIL got diagnosed with an aggressive Grade 3 breast cancer a month ago, had the lump and lymph nodes excised and started chemo today - it's all so bloody unfair.

((hugs)) and my love to your Mum, I hope she's not in pain.

DaisyGal said...

OH Vee, Oh sweetie.
What do I say??? OMG. *FUCK* that's what I want to say.
To let the universe give you a break...to have your mum stay and live long enough to see her grandson grow into a little boy, a big boy , a man.

I am just so sorry. There are no words that sound write , I keep writing and deleting.

I just love you and I'm here , no matter what you need.
*Holding your hand from the other side of the world*
xo

Kimberly said...

Oh Vee, I hate this. I really really do.As ever, I will be thinking of you guys.

loribeth said...

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this now on top of losing Max. Really, aren't there limits?? (((hugs)))

annacyclopedia said...

Listening and abiding and praying. Always. XOXO

Bea said...

Vee, your mum has been so brave for so long. I'm not sure what's ahead, but I hope she can continue that. Good luck with your mum's decision.

Bea

Miss Ruby said...

Dad had one very short burst of chemo in order to potentially extend his life. It made him so sick he decided there and then - no more chemo.

We had 6 precious months with him from diagnosis to passing over - sure it could have been maybe 12 months or 18 months if he'd had chemo but what type of life is another thing.

A family friend of Dad's died of Bowel cancer a year before he was re-diagnosed. She spent the last 6 months of her life basically on bedrest and drugged up to cope with the pain, she had no life and definitely no quality of life.

Dad didn't want that. The 6 months we got with him, were good months, all 6 of them because he chose to avoid treatment.

Vee I wish the universe would give you and yours a break, I think you truly deserve that break.

Big hugs

xxxx

maytey said...

Oh Vee, I am so sorry to hear this. As you say, lots and lots of strength and courage to your mum. And big hugs for you and Babbaboo. xxx

Delenn said...

The universe needs to give you and your mom a break! So sorry to hear this, wishing you and your mom strength to deal with it.

lparsons15 said...

I wish it would give your family a break too...

chicklet said...

Gawd Vee, it is all really unfair what this world has been putting you through the last few years. I wish I had words that would help but I just think it all fucking sucks.

Princess Jo said...

:S Our thoughts are with you all.

Wish there was a magic switch to fix it all.

Jo

SLJ said...

Hugs Vee, hope your mum is feeling more comfortable soon, and that you get some rest and a break from the stress.
I'm sure Babbaboo gives your mum a lot of joy, my one big regret at having my kids a bit later is that Mason didn't get to meet and spend time with my mum as Haydn did.

Susan

luna said...

so sorry to hear about your mum's turn, vee. such an awful disease. thinking of you and abiding with you.