Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Rest in Peace

I don't have many words just lots of tears.

My beautiful Max passed away yesterday. He is now finally comfortable and painfree. He put up such a fight right till his last breath, my courageous man.

I love you forever Bubs. I know you will be watching over Doudou and I and waiting to show us the new wonderful place you are at.
Rest in Peace.

60 comments:

Cibele said...

I am so sorry Vee, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your sweet little boy. My heart breaks for you and I wish I could help in some way. You 2 put up an extraordinary fight, I was amazed by how courageous you 2 are. Rest in peace Max, you will be missed and forever remembered. You take care Vee , cry your tears but stay strong.
HUGS

Bea said...

Vee, I was not expecting this news so soon. It all seems to have happened so fast recently. I don't think my head has quite got around it yet. I'm sure you are both ahead of me and also only just beginning to try and come to terms with everything that has happened.

As for Max, may he be at peace now, as you say.

Love to Doudou.

Bea

May said...

My deepest sympathies to you and your beautiful little boy. May your lovely husband be free from pain. I am so very sorry.

cas said...

Thinking of you all. xxxx

LJ said...

I am so sorry for your and DouDou's loss. Our thoughts are with you today, and hope that Alex is pain free tonight.

Carly's reads said...

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss vee. :( my thoughts are with you and your little boy in this sad time. Xo sending you a hug.

Jeni said...

I am so sorry for your loss, my heart is breaking for you and DouDou, Max rest in peace and look down from above to watch over your family.

Beth said...

I am so very sorry for your loss. May all the good memories help you stay strong.

lparsons15 said...

Oh god Vee, So sorry for your loss. I saw on LFCA that he took a turn for the worse. May Max rest very peacefully in no more pain. Take care of yourself and your darling little boy. Thoughts and prayers with you and your family.

Amy said...

I don't have the words to tell how very sorry I am. Just know that many wishes for peace and strength are coming to you from VA, USA. My heart is hurting for you and yours.

Gil said...

My love, thoughts and prayers are right there with you Vee. The tears I shed are in grief for the loss of your beautiful husband and Doudou's loving daddy. May Alex find peace and comfort until one day, you shall all meet again.
Blessings from me, hubby and Petite. Always.

PaleMother said...

Oh Vee,

I am so very sorry for your loss. I almost choked on a pretzel waiting to click through to this post for the title. Kept hoping it was something else. Like your furnace or your car. Lots of love for all of you.

xxoo

Carolyn said...

Oh Vee!

I am so sorry... Words won't really help right now, but you are all in our thoughts...

Hugs,
Carolyn

Jules363 said...

Oh Vee, I just such a sick feeling rise in my throat when I opened the blog, and I burst into tears. I don't even know you, but your little family has touched me deeply. I saw how frail Max was, but he just seemed to keep going, long beyond what the Drs said he would. I'm so, so sorry Vee, there are no words, as you say, only tears.

OHN said...

Vee~please know that even half a world away, there are thoughts and prayers for you.

My thoughts, my rants, my life said...

Words cannot express how sorry I am to hear of Alex's passing. It's pouring rain here and it seems fitting that the skies are also weeping.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and Doudou......

Jules said...

RIP Max. My thoughts are with you & Doudou at this sad time. xo

Lollipop Goldstein said...

Numb and crying at the same time, so I can't imagine where your heart and head are right now. Know we are here to listen. And to wish we could be in Oz too to give you a hug.

kim2649 said...

Vee, I am so so sorry. (((Hugs))) and prayers from across the world. I have been amazed by your strength through this journey that no one should have to travel.

Dora said...

Oh, Vee! So sorry for your loss. It has been a loss that chipped away bit by bit. I can only imagine how hard it's been watching Alex in pain for so long. You have both been so courageous. His pain is over, but yours ...

Much love to you and your sweet little boy.

tireegal68 said...

Oh, dear Vee, I held my breath when I saw the title of your post. I'm so sorry and I know those are very small words for three people with such big hearts and courage as you, Max and Doudou.
I'm here, with many others, grieving for your sweet Max and for you and Doydou who have to find a way forward.
I'm glad that you were able to take that holiday, have some delicious moments amidst the pain and sadness.
My thoughts are with you.
Keep writing when you feel up to it and we'll be here to comfort you and to listen.

Alex said...

Sending you strength and loving thoughts.

planningdoesntwork said...

My thoughts are with you.

Tina said...

Vee I am so sorry for your loss.My thoughts are with you and your precious little Doudou.
Sending you lots of love and strength babe.
xo

Pundelina said...

Oh Vee, I am so very very sorry for your loss. I wish there were something I could do for you beyond telling you that you and Doudou are in my thoughts.

((hugs)) and love.
x

Mel said...

I am so sorry Vee and am sending you a big hug. I have donated some money to Rainbows for Kate in memory of Alex. xx

Car said...

Vee I am so sorry to hear this. RIP Max
Much love to you and Doudou as you walk this difficult road xxx

Lady Alicia said...

Dear Vee, he is certainly at a wonderful place now, where pain and suffering don't exist. He's probably cooking a new recipe, or riding his motorbike along an endless, beautiful prairie, or maybe swimming with lovely dolphins in a turquoise sea. And watching over you two, of course. He'll have a wonderful time exploring that wonderful place so that he can show you and Doudou the best spots when you meet again.

We will never forget him.

Beth said...

So very sorry for your loss. Reading about Max was a priviledge, thank you.
May he rest in peace.
xxx

Rach said...

Vee, I am of course so utterly sorry that you no longer have the man you love in your life in a physical sense, and that Doudou will no longer be able to feel Alex's warm hugs that only a Father can give but my dear friend your own words are so very true....

"He is now finally comfortable and painfree"

There could be no truer words spoken.

When Dad died, my only thought after his death was that he could finally breath easy, the last month of his life, every breath he took was such a fight and now in passing over he could finally breath easy.

Vee you will get through this but then you know that. Doudou will be the strength you need to move through the coming days, weeks and months.

Making sure Doudou knows what a wonderful Father Alex was, will keep him forever in your mind and thoughts and always in your heart.

I wish you not only many moments of peace in the coming weeks Vee but also moments of pure happiness when you remember what a wonderful person, husband and Father Alex was, when you recall all the many many happy memories you have of him, of you two and of all three of you as a family.

You will be in my thoughts my dear friend....

Much Love & Light with dashings of peace....

Rach
xxxx

Megan said...

Vee, I am so sorry. I feel so privileged to have been allowed to follow your blog. I have shed tears tonight for you, for Doudou and for Max.
My thoughts are with you and Doudou and may you find the strength to get through the coming days, weeks and months.
Rest in Peace Max

xx

Anonymous said...

Dear Vee and Doudou,

I am so sorry that this has happened to your darling Max. My thoughts are with you both at this very difficult time.

RIP Max.

Belinda

Melanie said...

There are no words. I hope you have the support and love you need around you to get you and Doudou through this time.

'Murgdan' said...

I am so so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your beautiful son during this difficult time.

lbradley said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you and Doudou. I am so sad to hear this news.

G$ said...

Oh Vee, my heart hurts so much to read this news. You and Doudou and Max are in my thoughts and prayers.

Anonymous said...

I'm sorry for your pain and sorry for your loss Vee. Your beautiful Max is so courageous and put up such a fight. You both have inspired me so much and your journey has touched my heart in so many ways. Thinking of you and your families and may your gorgeous little precious angel Doudou help you to get through your pain and grief. Rest forever in Peace.

Anonymous said...

I'm sorry for your pain and sorry for your loss Vee. Your beautiful Max is so courageous and put up such a fight. You both have inspired me so much and your journey has touched my heart in so many ways. Thinking of you and your families and may your gorgeous little precious angel Doudou help you to get through your pain and grief. Rest forever in Peace.

L

jsmith69 said...

Oh Vee, I'm so very sorry! You and Max lived a beautiful love affair right to the very end. I'm sorry that it ended too soon. You are an amazing woman- a wonderful wife and mother!

Love and prayers for you and Doudou!

Anne

janice said...

Vee, I am very sorry. I am sending you love, light, hugs and prayers. Doudou will grow up with all your wonderful memories, love and stories of Max. Your family's courage is inspiring.

serenity said...

I wish I could say something more than that I'm thinking of you. I just can't sort out my feelings to put them into words.

Wishing I was there in person to give you a hug. Much love to you, sweetie. I'm so sorry.

xxx

jill said...

I'm so so sorry Vee :( I don't know what to say but wanted to let you know that I'm still here reading along and sending you lots of strength and lots of *hugs*. You did so much for Max, and were/are so strong. I'm positive he felt extremely loved and cared for.

luna said...

oh vee, I am so very sorry.
there are no words here either, just tears from across the pacific.
sending you love and light, peace and healing.

Erin said...

I'm so very sorry. Thinking of you Vee. You and Doudou will remain in my prayers.

SLJ said...

RIP Alex.
I know you will live on in the happy memories of those that will always love you.

A beautiful soul set free.

Our thoughts and prayers are with Vee and Doudou.

Susan, Tony, Haydn and Mason

Marys said...

Vee, this is so hard to express in words and I am so worried I am going to say the wrong thing.
I am so so sorry and sad, to hear of Max passing on, he was so loved and respected and has been so courageous and brave for so long and fought such a great battle with that horrible ugly disease, hoping he is at Peace now and pain free. I never knew Max but know he was a wonderful human being with so much love, respect and adoration for you and Leo. I am sitting her typing through tears and grief for you and little Leo.

You have been amazing as I have said many times before, you have been so strong and such a wonderful, supportive, loving wife and mother.

You are so lucky to have such incredible support and love and from your family and friends at this time.

Can just imagine the heartache, grief and devastation you must be feeling after losing my much loved and adored beautiful mum to cancer in September 2004, I would do anything to bring her back to give her a hug or a kiss or to tell her how much I love her. I can never understand or will never ever come to terms with the fact that our loved ones are taken away so soon, saying good-bye is the hardest thing to do. I hope god gives you strength and courage to accept this.

I have become a friend of Rainbows for Kate too, it is so heartbreaking to read the stories of others.

May your heart and soul find peace and comfort at this time.

Our thoughts and deepest condolences are with you and your family at this time.

Give gorgeous little Leo all the hugs and kisses you can.

Mary x

In Due Time said...

Oh Vee, my heart breaks for you. I have been thinking about you constantly. (((((Vee & Doudou)))))))) Praying for you sweetheart.

edenland said...

All of my love to you Vee. I'm just sad and stunned. Dave sends his love down to you too, I speak of you and Max to him often and he feels like he "knows" you.

Lifting you up in my thoughts. Sending you and Leo peace and strength, especially tomorrow.

I just love you mate.

XOXOXOXOXOXOXOOXOXOOXOX

Nearlydawn said...

Oh, Vee, I'm so sorry that Alex has gone. I hope in the coming days you will find peace knowing that his pain is eased and he is at rest.

He loved you and Doudou so much. Everyday you spoke of your love for each other, for your child, for life - you have shared a gift of true love with your Alex - a truly sweet life.

Hugs. I sure wish I could give you one personally...

(Erica) Rebel With.A.Cause said...

Oh sweetie, I have no words... please know that my heart is with you always!!

Jane said...

I am so sad for you and I'm sorry that you had so little time to be the much wanted family . Now you will be a different shaped family. I am thankful that the pain is struggle is over and he is in a place free of that pain. My thoughts are with you and I wish there were words that in any way are adequete
with love to you x

caro said...

dear vee, i am so very very sad for you and doudou and alex. life wasn't supposed to be this way for you three. cancer sucks.

i have no doubt, however, that you and doudou will find a way to be a family together, keeping alex' spirit alive by living and enjoying life to the fullest. he will be there in spirit, looking out for you.

thinking of you, and crying with you.

much love,
caro

annacyclopedia said...

Vee, just know that I am thinking of you constantly and wishing you peace and every available comfort. I know you need to be strong for Doudou but I hope you can also be supported enough to fall apart at times. The loss of Alex is just so, so huge and so wrong - you should not have to be grieving your husband so young. We are all here holding you up in our hearts and will stick by you through all that comes next.

All my love.

mish said...

Your beautiful, loving and courageous family have touched me so deeply. My tears won't stop. I'm so sorry for your loss. So so sorry. Max is now free. Free to pursue all that he ever dreamed of.

Mish xoxo

Carla said...

Vee, words always seem so inadequate at times like these but I'm sending you and Doudou my deepest sympathy. Be at peace Alex...

ad475 said...

Dear Vee - so so sorry. Sending loving thoughts and many hugs. Thinking of you.
Alison

Rachel Inbar said...

Thinking of you. Max really did put up quite a fight. It must be because he treasured his time with you.

loribeth said...

I was one of the ones who got lost in the shuffle when you went PWP... meant to e-mail you for the password but never got around to it. Glad to be able to send you some support again!

I was so sorry to hear about Max, & am keeping you & Doudou in my thoughts.

zhl said...

I'm so very sorry, Vee. Will be thinking often of you and your boy.

alicia said...

Oh Vee, sweet hugs and love I am sending you and Doudou. I have no words. My thoughts are with you.