Thursday, February 21, 2013

Change of Plans

So I haven't been packing. We are not moving in with my Dad. I am feeling pretty bummed about it. I had all these plans and now they either wont be happening or have changed.

You see the day I went to my Dads to discuss which rooms we would be moving into and which of his furniture we would be moving, he cried. He stood at the door of each room and cried. He didn't want to move anything, he didn't want anything touched. I don't know what he thought when he said we could move in, I think he thought we would walk in with two suitcases and share the smallest room in the house which he isn't attached to. He is still grieving my Mum. I totally understand and respect that. Every one grieves differently. When Max died I had to leave our house. Yes I am still attached to many of his things, but the home not so much. Since my Mum died my Dad has never slept in their marital bed he sleeps in a single bed in one of the spare rooms. So moving into my Dads ain't gonna happen.

So the plan now is to go and enjoy our Thailand holiday in two weeks time and in the mean time declutter my house, I am getting rid of loads of things. When we get back we will either move into a 2 bedroom apartment in the same area or move to the coast 1.5 hours away. Where we can get something a bit bigger and with a small backyard.

I do believe that some things happen for a reason. Perhaps moving in with my Dad was not the best idea in the end. 


5 comments:

Lurker 24 said...

Ahh, your poor dad.
Do you work out of your home? I was just curious as 1.5 hours away is a long commute.
Enjoy your holiday.

maytey said...

Oh dear, sorry for you both. Must have been hard.
Decluttering is always good! Clears the mind and gives you energy.
Some big decisions ahead! Hope you have a lovely time away. xx (sorry, couldn't resist trying out the html :)

Aerotropolitan Comitissa said...

Aw, your poor Dad. As you said, it might be for the best. At any rate, if he's not ready to move things I think it was a good decision to change plans.

But the main thing - have a GREAT trip!!

Gil said...

There is a reason for all things Vee sweetie. On one hand, I am so sorry that you won't be moving in with your dad; I'm sure your hopes and plans are dashed. On the other, if it isn't the right time for him, it simply isn't the right time. He will know if/when it is. So for now, I think your plans are perfect. Enjoy your time away in Thailand. And look into something different for you and Leo when you return. Love and hugs to you all. As always.

tireegal68 said...

How are you all doing? I miss hearing about you. How is your dad and your living situation and you and your cute little boy?
xoxoxo